Living together is hard- ask any long-established couple. They’ll also tell you that its a road that passes through good and bad places.
The Christian marriage service recognises these realities. This is one of the reasons you can’t, in an Anglican church, write your own vows. The vows point out the realities of life and ask both partners to make the same promises to each other: for better, for worse, in sickness and in health. But there’s an upside to this. The service does not just acknowledge the seriousness of living together, but gives that a strong foundation by asking that the declarations be made publicly. People sometimes say that they don’t need public declarations, but such declarations can be affirming and give confidence.
The rite also makes it clear that God does not expect those who marry to do it tough by themselves. The constant refrain is “with God’s help”. The promise of Christian marriage is the gift of the Spirit to nurture the love draws a couple together and, if this is their further calling, to bring up their children together “with God’s help”.
If you wish to explore further the sacrament of marriage , please make an appointment with the Rector.